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6A Accent Saturday, May 8, 2004 Service minded and more i i' 1 W. COMMUNITY CALENDAR r-r IE jr. JfS vv 1 til I Mha The Index-Journal's Community Calendar Is a public reminder of special events and meetings sponsored by civic clubs, community groups, and governing bodies for up to seven days of publication. Deadline for these Items Is seven days prior. 9 a.m.

Weight Watchers, Civic Center. 1 0 a.m. Breakfast With a Veteran, Dutch treat. South Point Restaurant, 2808 Highway 25 hosted by Disabled American Veterans and Vietnam Veterans of America. The public is invited, especially young people who would like to learn some history from the veterans.

Call 'Shorty' Callison, 227-1949, Preston Rodgers, 227-1657. 1 0 a.m. Early Bird A.A. Group, non-smoking, Brice Street Building. 3 p.m.

Ode Abbeville Camp 39, Sons of Confederate Veterans, Confederate memorial services, Tabernacle Cemetery, Highway 254, Greenwood. The public is invited. Call Walter Riggins, 554-0526. 6-9 p.m. Greenwood County Republican Party sponsors an CHd Fashioned Stump Rally and Barbecue, Greenwood County Farmers Market.

Tickets available at the door, adults, $10, children, $5. Call John Gillespie, party chairmen, 341-3948. 8 p.m. Greenwood A.A. Group, smoking, Brice Street Building.

8 p.m. New Life Group N.A., Callie Self Memorial Baptist Church, 509 Kirksey Drive. Photo by Charlee Marshall Left is Sylvia Kinard, who manages gift shop and right, is Sandra volunteer coordinator. Janet Bishop, Self Regional Healthcare's new Director of Volunteer Services, seated, is already comfortably situated in her office at fO a.m. -1 1th Step Group of A.A., smoking, Brice Street Building.

B5p.m.-Sisters for Sobriety, for AVwomen interested in recovery from acoho addiction, Brice Street Build- 8 p.m. Night Group X.A.and Al-Anon Family Group, non-smoking, Brice Street Building. Bishop fills need, gets back into circulation ByCHARLEE MARSHALL Special to The Index-Journal There's a new director of volunteer services at Self Regional Healthcare, but don't call her Mrs. Self, she said, laughing. Janet Bishop, who assumed the duties in the middle of April, is often referred to as Mrs.

Bowers, Mrs. Rodgers or the Red Cross Lady because of her past associations with the Bowers-Rodgers Home and the Red Cross. She has also worked with the local mental health association. Many people in town know her, but she is looking to plow new ground in the position vacated by Janice Elliott. "I kind of retired for almost six months not fully retired -still doing things," Bishop said.

But she yearned to be back in circulation, helping people as she has done for so many years, and is looking forward to providing another service in the community. "And I love being around people," Bishop said. Husband Alan knew she wouldn't stay put for long. After having a full career in finance, helping establish Bowers-Rodgers home and directing the local chapter of the Red Cross, Bishop's interests and her life are wrapped around a number of groups in Greenwood close to her heart. "It wa really hard whetj you separate yourself from all that, not to have your finger on the pulse of what's going on in the community," she admitted.

So, she's working fulltime -again. "So far, it's been wonderful," Bishop said. "The staff and administration here at the hospital everybody has been wonderful." Her new responsibilities involve working with Self Regional's auxiliary. "I know how important this auxiliary is to this hospital, and how important volunteers are. Because all the non-profit organizations I've worked for utilize volunteers," Bishop said.

The auxiliary members provide a myriad of services that allow the hospital staff to concentrate on the jobs at hand. They deliver mail and flowers, do filing, work in the hospital gift shop and with its pharmacy as well as man the central infor- Marriage QUESTION: My 5-year-old son is a real people person. Several times a week he cries because he wants someone to play with him. He really hates playing alone. I set aside 30-45 minutes each day to play one-on-one with him.

He also, has opportunity to play with his cousin 1-2 times a week, and he attends preschool 3 mornings a week. He is truly not starved for playmates. But it is very distressing for me to have him get so sincerely distressed so often. After dinner, my husband plays with him until bedtime. Even on weekends much if not most of my husband's time is spent playing with him.

As you can see, he is not starved for attention either. Is there some way I can teach my son to play on his own without his getting so upset so often? ANSWER: Burton White-child psychologist, researcher, and author of "Raising a Happy, Unspoiled Child" (Fireside, 1 3 has said that the prime indicator of good developmen- tal health in a 3-year-old is the KYLar foam cm uBI NMTva Ma program anrundnfflh top Satucmtnirttt. Ttm IndaHoutml -FproifceMtaquwtfMur atom oil Itmmorgtntitbom. KfoumuUtkt yeurvymiOtttot tomtitm) lor a Urn-tun andfer Hating, mm F.YX,Tlm mum- Joumat, Pa Bern 1019, GnmrnooA, S.C i 0 ARTS HOMEWORK AND TUTOR- MO COTTER in aflwschoai cenur aval- tt toe K4-ootege age students, 2.30-9 Monday (hrotKi Thuraday and 2JC-6 'nniFrtdeTbamacliDelraranoa St CDrtaet Audrey Rhode, 388-9950. a BOWERS ROOGERS HOME, a 24- hoar amergancy shelter tor abused, neglect-, and abandoned chidren rangmg from i birth to aga 1 7.

Licensed by Department ol Social SaJprMdasterrf)Ofaiy i unSpemiaiwtauSabteplaoementcanbe i decided Contact RmhSmdh. 229-1240. BRIDGES, an assembly of 25119) graders who ant aetected by their echoob tor the bung of leadership Mdts, tow- s'i edge about Greenwood and te institutions, provide ooportunfttos tor bridgng senoosvi expose teens to vokrteeropporturrtea. CxxitaclShBteTobert, 228431, I FAMLY READMQ CIRCLE BOOK CLUBS at Cross Road Baptist Church and Greenwood Put Hooang, an outreach procttwGfeenvvcodCommu'iityCen- school children. CkritaLoisMufuka 388-1 GATEWAYS TO SUCCESS, program toheipaoxonaSy-9jfbedyour9dute between 14-21to make successful transition lo adulthood.

Gateways Is a strwigttHsed family focused program. For WormatJon, caJt 943-8592. orgaricatlon tor abused or neglected children. Contact Sherry MuBemx, 223-46B1. GIRL POWER, a NorltTside Middle School mentoring ok tor girts, Contact GJenss Green, 941-5789.

GREENWOOD FAMILY YMCA, offers a Leaders Club, ages 12-15, tor those teens interested in heicang tajtar and mentof after-schooJ petjdpants by also gaining (ha expe-riencaneeoMasaYMCAAfteiscnooland rjaycamp Counselor. Cat Ryan Finney, YMCA aenlor proooTrector, at 223-9622. QGREEtWOOD CENTER FORIHE DEPARTMENT OF JUVENILE JUSTICE, a 1 corredtonal tar to 8 and votunteeis to assist with recreatton. rOtoplafnirriarf HOSPtCECARE Of THE PfEDMONT TEEN VOLUNTEER COUNCIL, is an out-growtti of the HospioeCare program. Con- the Hospices offices at 227-9393 in Greenwood.

HOMEWORK CENTER fwNorthside Midde School, conducted by First Baptist Church. Contact Kenneth Stanley, 229-5557. HOSTS, or Helping One Student to Succeed Greenwood's Mathews Elementary, 941 -5687; Oakland Elemenlary, 388-2490; Springfield Elementary, 388-2481 Lakeview, 388-2493; Hodges Elementary, 388-2497; Woodfielde Elementary, 388-2496; East End Elementary, 941-5520; Pinecrest, 941-5580; Merrywood, 941-5700. HOSTS, at Ware Shoals Primsy. Contact Vickie Bailey, 861-2261.

HOSTS, at Ninety Six Elementary. Contact Joan Tidwel, 543-31 1 2. MENX, a mentor program at Nlorth-side Midde School tor students on'grades 6-8 Contact C.B. Simmons Jr. at 941-5784.

NEW BEGINNINGS, a home visitation program tor first-time parents sponsored by the Greenwood Community Children's Center. Contact Brenda Edwards, 941-8196. PALS.a big brothertoig sister-type agency Contact Net Crisp, 2296889. PROJECT COOL, an after-school tutorial procjram.Corrtact SeywHe Parks, 223-1596. RAVEN, a community resource cen-ttwhlitocJ8escnerrpciwering children and their families through a variety of programs and services.

Current RAVEN pro-grams inctude Communities tn Schools (CIS) and Project GANG (God's Anointed New Generation) which operates FAST (Families and Schools Together). Also, USDA program available. CaJ 227-0400 or visit the Web site at http:Vfflw.ravenslnc.org. TEENS UNDER FIRE (TUF), an alco-hol awareness and highway safety educator program twadctecerte and teens offered on a monthly basis. Contact Cornerstone, 227-1001 THE CHILD'S PLACE, a program of specialized children's services under Sexual Trauma and Counseling Center that Is chHd-tocused, community-based Child Advocacy Center.

The services bring law enforcement, child protective services, prosecution, mental health and medical communities together to reduce re-traumatizing the children and also to increase the likelihood of successful prosecution. The Child's Place serves Greenwood, Laurens, AbbevfHe and Newberry counties. CaJ 227-1623. SEXUAL TRAUMA AND COUNSELING CENTER, a non-profit organization providing 24-hour intervention services to victims of sexual abuse and assault in Greenwood, Laurens and Abbeville counties. Educational programs provided to schools, colleges and community organizations: confidential one-on-one assistance; and individual and group therapy to victims of abuse.

Call 227-1623. YOUNG LIFE, a Christian ministry to high school and middle school youth. College and young adult volunteers needed. -Call 223-1 184. YOUTH MENTORING PROGRAM, a project of the Eighth Circuit Solicitor's Office to help youths who have had brushes with the taw to get their lives back on track.

The program needs mentors, monitors, role models and friends from Greenwood and Abbeville for at-risk youth. Contact Solicitor Townes Jones or Dawn Puderbaugh at been trained in various duties, can take Over when necessary. Bishop wants to encourage young mothers, whose children are already in school, to give a few hours of service. She has been busy going out into the hospital and sitting with the volunteers and learning exactly what they do. "The nice part is, there are so many different jobs," Bishop said.

Her goal as director of volunteer services is to find jobs that best suit the individuals. She will match them with a job familiar to them, maybe requiring the same skills as their former occupations. Or if they want to branch out and try a new pursuit, she will work with them on that. Bishop and her spouse, a. retired police officer, moved to Greenwood in 1989.

They live at Stoney Point, where they enjoy the neighborhood and the golf. The parents of three sons, himself into the marriage, in between you and your husband. In effect, and especially from your son's point of view, you are no longer married. You are his mom and dad (and I'm putting purposeful emphasis on the possessive nature of the word It's obvious that you both are there to perform whatever function he demands of you, whenever he demands it. Under the circumstances, the two of you are not even functioning as mom and dad.

In reality, you've become your son's servant, and your husband is playing the role of his buddy. As a good friend of mine would say, "That just ain't right." When you and your husband are together in the home, the majority of your attention needs to be on your marriage, not on your son. You're going to need to put some limits on the amount of time either of you will play with him, and this is not going to go over well. If you are determined to not make him upset, then I would suggest that there is no solution. Just resolve to doing the hospital.

the auxiliary Williams, mation desk and other posts that require working with the' patients and their families and the public. Volunteers also raise funds for equipment and other needs at the hospital. Recruiting volunteers both adult and junior is an important part of Bishop's new job. She sees the task as a challenge, but one she is ready to tackle. "They're a vital part of the operations here," she said.

Tm familiar with a lot of them. Many of the volunteers have been with Self Regional a long time. Most, up to this point, have been retirees with extra time on their hands. However, Bishop pointed out that people are now retiring younger and are busier than eyer, with plans for travel and other pursuits, so they are hesitant to commit to a rigid schedule of service. "But we can work around their schedules," she points out.

Also, substitutes, who have is twosome, not threesome they were foster parents to 11 others at various times. "All boys, all in their teens and troubled kids," Bishop said. She and her husband remain close to several of their foster children who have gifted the couple with five "foster" grand-kids who are as close to them as their natural ones. Presently, Bishop is involved with Oasis Life Center, in a ministry for youngsters which attempts to get them into a church setting and off the streets. 'Teens are still important to me," she said.

Bishop is pleased to be part of Self Regional's expansion. 'To be a part of all that growth, that's going to be exciting whether you work here, or a volunteer here or just live here in Greenwood," she said. "And we're always looking for additional patient services we can provide to make patients' visits as comfortable as possible." Bishop can be reached at 227-4177. whatever you need to do, both of you, to keep your son from ever getting upset for the 1 3 years between now and his going off to college-that's if he decides when the time comes to give up this state of bliss. If you decide that your marriage is in fact a twosome, not a threesome, then you and your husband need to sit down with your son and tell him that you're going to help him learn to entertain himself.

In that regard, and for the time being, he can have 30 minutes of your one-on-one time during the day and 30 minutes of his dad's one-on-one time during the day. Every week, on Monday, the time will be reduced by 5 minutes until there is no time other than a book or two at bedtime, an occasional spontaneous playtime, and the like. Let me assure you that if you let this go on, it will only get worse. Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parents' questions on his Web site at www. rosfmond.

com. a.m- Free Senior Fitness Class, anyone 55 or older, Greenwood Mall, meet at the center court fountain. Sponsor: Wellness Works of Self Regional Healthcare. 10-2 Upstate Cosmetology Career Fair, Greenwood Mall, for licensed professionals in the beauty and cosmetology industries, representatives from more than 16 potential employers. 10 a.m.

Early Bird A.A., nonsmoking, Brice Street Building. 10:15 a.m. -Palladian Club, Annual Picnic, home of Joann Gray. "Red Hat Society II." 1 0:30 a.m. Atheneum Study Club picnic, at the Mays' lake house.

Meet at the Woman's Club by 10:30. 1 1:30 a.m. Phelea Study Club, annual picnic lunch, at Gatewood Club. 12-1 p.m. Lunch Brunch AA Group, Brice Street Building.

12:30 p.m. Emerald Center Multi-County Board for Disabilities and Special Needs, 929 Phoenix second floor conference room. Board members pictures taken at noon. 3 p.m. The Study Club, Greenwood County Library.

Henrietta Morton presents program about cartoonists. 4:30 p.m. Weight Watchers, Civic Center. 5 p.m. Neighborhood Association Council at Greenwood Area Chamber of Commerce.

Call Toni Hubbard, 223-8431. 5:30 p.m. Abbeville Alzheimer's Support Group, Abbeville Nursing Home. Free, open to the public. For free in-home patient sitter, call Upstate Chapter several days prior: 1-800-273-2555.

5:30 p.m. West Side A.A., St. Mark United Methodist Church. 5:45 p.m. TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly), nonprofit weight loss support group, Wesleyan Church, 208 Bypass 225 Children's building.

Call 341-7730. 5:45 p.m. Weight Watchers, Civic Center. p.m. DBSA Greenwood (Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance), Nisbet Center, 1202 Edgefield St.

For those with depression andor bipolar disorder, families, friends. Call 227-3908. 6:1 5 p.m. Heritage Sertoma of Greenwood, dinner, meeting, Greenwood Sertoma Foundation Building, East Alexander Avenue. Prospective members welcome.

Call 223-5901 p.m. Free English classes for Spanish-speaking adults, New Haven Community Center, 51-F Lang New Haven Apartments. LIVING WITH CHILDREN JOHN ROSEMOND ability to entertain himself, without the need for parental attention, for long periods of time. According to this criteria, your son is two yean behind the curve. Indeed, a 5-year-old who is getting this much onc-on-one from his parents is not starved for attention; rather, he is addicted to his parents' attention.

It's high time you and your husband stopped being this capable child's playmate. What you have described is a family situation that is all-too-typical today: A family in which the children never or rarely (at best) see the parents in the roles of husband and wife. By pretending to be a victim, your son has effectively wedged am ji mm Nik ii rMfcirii, ii(frawii i tfimTliiir JL.